Articles List

May 30, 2016

The Addict Self is a False Self. The True Self is Who You Are

I was in an AA meeting once and someone said “The disease talks to me.” Being in very early recovery, I had no clue what he […]
May 28, 2016

63 Things to do Instead of Being Involved with Porn Addiction

Fishing Laughing Writing Poetry Walking My Cat Not Going to Church                               […]
May 26, 2016

Sex Addiction Compromises the Very Thing We All Need — Connection

People form defenses to cope with excessive conditions of stress experienced in growing up.  A defense, put simply, is a way to cope with anxiety.   It invariably […]
May 25, 2016

FAQ’s About Understanding Sex Addiction

    Sex addiction: how real is it and how to cure a sex addiction.   What is Sex Addiction? Sex addiction is a very real […]
May 25, 2016

Childhood Disturbances in the Personality of the Sex Addict

Sex Addiction is the result of early-life misatunements with parents including abuse, neglect, valuing the child only for achievement, lack of mirroring of feelings and blame/shame […]
May 25, 2016

Addicted to Love: Or is it Really Neediness and Dependence, the Opposite of Love

 Cultural injunctions and family values inculcates us with the belief that we’re not worthy as a person unless we’re in a relationship.  “Being In Love” is […]
May 25, 2016

Are You Married to a Sex Addict? There is Hope.

Description Partners of sex addicts recently have been treated in therapy as though they had PTSD.  Such is the nature of the betrayal and duplicity involved […]
May 25, 2016

37 Lies Your Addict Self Tells You

The True Self is capable of objectively observing the Sex Addict Self because it’s not obsessively preoccupied with getting it’s neurotic needs met. Psychoanalysts call this […]
March 9, 2016

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March 8, 2016

Why Can’t the Addict Control His Behavior?

 Why do addicts chase the fix again, and again, and again, despite whatever horrific consequences that must be faced?   I’m fond of saying that addiction […]