Author Archives: Dorothy Hayden
Why You MUST Know about the Sex Addiction Cycle
@Mark Robinette, MFT, http://www.sexaddicthelp.com After 15 years of working with sex addicts, I have concluded that it is not sex – per Se – that is the object of the addictive attachment, but rather it is the state of … Continue reading
15 Relaxation Techniques to Aid Sex Addiction Recovery
Are you aware of the factors that immediately precede your entry into the “sex addiction cycle” with it’s preoccupation, fantasies, ritualization, “erotic haze” and ultimately, sexual acting out? The closer you get to the end of the cycle, for instance, … Continue reading
What’s the “Hook” in Sex Addiction?
A addict with predictable and consistent immediate gratification, but that has concomitant costs. Eventually these costs may outweigh the subjective benefits the addiction offers. Nevertheless, people continue in their addiction as long as they believe it continues to do something … Continue reading
Caution! 37 Things Your Sex Addict Self Tells You
The True Self is capable of objectively observing the Sex Addict Self because it’s not obsessively preoccupied with getting it’s neurotic needs met. Psychoanalysts call this the “observing ego” and it is considered a sign of maturity. Proponents of Eastern … Continue reading
Control Your Destiny: See the “Addict” as “Not You”
part 11 The True Self is Reality. It sees the activities of the Addict as being what it is: a fantasy growling for what it compulsively seeks: immediate gratification in the form of physical pleasure. Sex addiction is fueled by … Continue reading
Sex Addicts! Learn the Voice of Your “Addict Self”
Thirty-five years ago, I discovered the rooms of AA. I heard many things I didn’t understand, not the least of which was when someone would say “The Disease Talks to Me.” “What on earth could that mean?” I thought to … Continue reading
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Sex Addiction Treatment: An Overview
This series of articles will offer a comprehensive understanding of the phenomenon of addiction in general and sex addiction in particular. Additional articles will provide precise ways that the various ways of therapy can help an individual suffering from … Continue reading
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Who are Sex Addicts? What Are They Looking for in Sex?
Addicted to Sex? Who are sex addicts and what are they hoping to find through their compulsive sexual behavior? Sex addicts are people who, afraid of real, intimate relationships, repeatedly and compulsively try to connect with others through highly … Continue reading
Porn Addiction: Not an Easy Nut to Crack
This from www.porn-no-more.com (After 45 posts, it occurs to me that I haven’t said A THING about recovery. I promise we’ll look at that IN DEPTH and for a long time — promise) I’ve been sitting in a room talking … Continue reading
ABC’s “20/20″ Interview with Dorothy about Cybersex
Question: Can you explain the phenomenon of the growth of cybersex in the last ten years? Answer: The cybersex phenomenon is the sexual revolution of the 60′s re-emerged to the 1000th degree because now the hottest sex in town can … Continue reading
Dorothy Hayden, LCSW, with over 15 years of experience in treating sex/porn addiction is considered a "thought leader" in the field. She has published over 20 articles, has written an e-book on Sex Addiction Recovery and has appeared in such media as "HBO"; "CNN's Anderson Cooper 360" and "ABC's '20/20'" as an expert in the field of sex/cybersex addiction. Trained in sex addiction with Patrick Carnes, Ph.D, she attended advanced psychoanalytic training in Manhattan for six years.